A Matter of Identity: What If Your Child Was Gay?

Greetings from the heart of the Daughter of Father God.

I do hope you are having a great week. I have something on my heart and would like for you to share the burden as we believe Father to do the miraculous.

Please, help me pray for our youth of today (and many others who are still hiding) who are being attacked by the enemy! they are rapidly being deceived and their hearts are being stolen from their families and waxing cold against the love of God.

Since the sad day when homosexuality was sanctioned in our nation as being acceptable, that spirit has been on the rise, and it is overtaking the hearts of the young and the mature who were not given a foundation of who they were at the onset of their lives. As a teacher, I see it every day, and even in my daily dealings. When confronted, I let those precious babies know that Jesus loves them and I love them! They are aware of my convictions about the lifestyle, but they know that I do not condemn them. We still have to love because loving, but remaining firm in our beliefs is a weapon of warfare against the onslaught of the devil to deceive our children and others we love for whom we are responsible.

The word of God says, "As a man (woman) thinketh in his (her) heart, so is he (she)..." (Proverbs 23:7a). If we as believers can show them that what is a fact about them is not the truth about them and that they are loved and redeemable through the blood of Jesus, they will begin to have second thoughts about who really cares about them and their eternal destiny.

It is not about their behavior; it is about their identity! If anyone can be made to believe the truth of who they are they can be made to see what they are - redeemed, delivered, loved and free to become what God ordained even before the foundation of the world (Genesis 1:26-27).

I have attached "a reading" that will assist us in how to relate to our loved ones who are struggling with this issue - whether they want to come out or not- we still have to know how to relate, why? Because they are our loved ones or someone we care about, but more than that Jesus Christ our Lord died for them, and Father God loves them as much as He loves Jesus or anyone else! You may not want to pray or deal with this serious issue, but "What if Your child was Gay"?

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What if Your Child Is Gay?

By Russell Moore

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July 8, 2018

My denomination is dealing these days with a pastor in California who reversed his position on homosexuality. The pastor said that his shift coincided with his 15-year-old son’s announcement that he is gay.

This is a situation every Christian should think through, now. As I’ve said before, at stake on the issue of a Christian sexual ethic is the gospel of Jesus Christ. But what if, sitting across from you, is your child or grandchild? You will, without a doubt, have someone close to you in your family come out as gay or lesbian, if not already, then sometime in the future. How should a Christian parent or grandparent respond?

One of the reasons this is such a crushing experience for many is because they assume that their alternatives are affirmation or alienation. I either give up my relationship with my child, or I give up the Bible. The gospel never suggests this set of alternatives, and in fact demonstrates just the opposite.

Every child, whether gay or straight, is oriented toward sin, and so are you. If your child or grandchild says he or she is gay, you shouldn’t act shocked, as though you are surprised your child might be tempted toward sin or that you find your own sinful inclinations somehow less deserving of God’s judgment.

Your child’s point of temptation doesn’t mean that your entire relationship with him or her should be defined by that. We don’t affirm what the Bible says is wrong simply because someone we love is drawn toward it, whether that’s “straight” fornication or gay relationships.

At the same time, that doesn’t mean your entire relationship is now to become a sparring match over Romans 1.

Ironically, those who cut off all relationship with a gay child buy into the narrative of the Sexual Revolutionaries, that every aspect of one’s identity is defined by sexual orientation and activity.

As a Christian, you believe this person is made in the image of God, and thus worthy of love, regardless of how far away from God or from you.

First of all, consider what your child is telling you. He or she could be saying that this is an identity, from which they refuse to repent. That will require a different sort of response than if the child is saying, “This is how I feel, so what do I do?” This will change the way you respond, but what doesn’t change is your love and care for this child.Don’t panic, and don’t reject them. Say explicitly that you love that child, no matter what, and mean it. Your relationship wasn’t formed by the child’s performance, and that won’t start now. If your loved one is a Christian, spend time over the years disciplining him or her about what following Christ looks like. Jesus isn’t shocked by his or her temptations, and will not leave him or her alone to fight them.

The path toward chastity and fidelity to Christ is a difficult one, and your child or grandchild will need you and the church and the great cloud of witnesses to cheer him or her on as they walk a path that can be lonely in a world that too often defines sex and sexuality as ultimate in life.

If your loved one isn’t a Christian, express your love, keep the relationship going and be a gracious gospel witness.

God never promises us that our children or grandchildren will all walk the way of Christ. Every wandering son or daughter needs to know that if the moment of crisis comes in his or her life, there’s a house waiting with a fatted-calf party ready to go, welcoming the wanderer home.

One of the reasons this is so hard for some parents and grandparents is because somehow we assume this issue to be merely a “culture war” issue, and not a gospel issue. As such, parents are often perplexed as to how to deal with this in their families because they think this is about them.

They wonder if others will judge them, as though they did something to “cause” this.

That’s ridiculous, and it leads people ultimately either to reject biblical teaching to keep their kids or reject their kids (and their gospel witness to them) for the sake of appearing to keep the biblical teaching.

At the root of all of that is pride, and I don’t mean that in the sense of “gay pride” but in the sense of carnal self-seeking. That’s a temptation for all parents, not just for those of gay children. We’re tempted to see our children as reflections of ourselves, and we’re tempted then to keep up our image.Crucify that temptation.

God calls us to holiness and to encourage one another to holiness. The Bible is clear that this means fleeing from sexual immorality, and that includes same-sex sexual activity (1 Cor. 6). God also calls parents to love their children.

Be clear about your convictions, and at the same time don’t exile your child from your life. If we sacrifice grace for truth or truth for grace, we’re sub-Christian.

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Selah!

Thank you for your support in this matter. My prayer for you is that Father through the person of Jesus Christ by the Holy Spirit will make all grace abound to you so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work – as you go, glow, and grow from Glory to Glory (2 Cor. 3:18).

Love you much.

Min. Dr. Marye Smith